Just followed the link here from your most recent post, and this reminds me of something I said recently elsewhere: one of the things I like about Tolkien is that it's okay to be a hobbit, to live most of one's life in comfortable domesticity, and to have an adventure once or twice when one is called to it. Life is long, you can different focuses at different times (or sometimes at the same time) rather than spending your whole life being a Quester or a Family Person.