A Significant Other is built up culturally, I think, as that person who will always understand and validate you and fill all your needs Yeah, I think part of the allure is "no matter what you're going through, that person will be there for you to take out your problems on and they'll understand and empathize and commiserate with you!" And like, especially because of the way I tend to see relationships as transactional where emotion-dumping is concerned, my reaction is "well I'd love to have someone like that but I can't imagine being that person for someone else, and that's not fair."
I guess with kids my internal stereotype is "even if the kid isn't going to be a perfect Quester themselves, you made another human being, that's pretty impressive!" But then again, my siblings and I turned out pretty well, so my parents probably think they're fortunate compared to families that had more challenges.
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Date: 2/18/24 09:45 pm (UTC)A Significant Other is built up culturally, I think, as that person who will always understand and validate you and fill all your needs Yeah, I think part of the allure is "no matter what you're going through, that person will be there for you to take out your problems on and they'll understand and empathize and commiserate with you!" And like, especially because of the way I tend to see relationships as transactional where emotion-dumping is concerned, my reaction is "well I'd love to have someone like that but I can't imagine being that person for someone else, and that's not fair."
I guess with kids my internal stereotype is "even if the kid isn't going to be a perfect Quester themselves, you made another human being, that's pretty impressive!" But then again, my siblings and I turned out pretty well, so my parents probably think they're fortunate compared to families that had more challenges.